Confrontation is hard … but it is the quality of the ‘repair process’ that really matters

Confrontation is hard … but it is the quality of the ‘repair process’ that really matters

Last night we had a bust up in our kitchen.  As I was putting a younger child to bed, I could hear our adolescent children arguing over whose turn it was to wash up.  

They are older now, the voices are louder and more powerful.  

Arguing can be both frightening and exhausting to be around.

For me, arguing triggers me back to my childhood.  

In my childhood experience, my father often argued, particularly when someone disagreed with him.

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How you can make the most of therapy.

How you can make the most of therapy.

Opening the doors to 'therapy gold'...

Whether you are new to therapy or not, sometimes it can be hard to know how to get the best out of the therapy experience.  This article is designed to help make that path a little bit easier.  Here are some tips...

  1. Be on time ... in fact be EARLY
    • Have you noticed how your therapy hour can take a while to get into on those days that you are rushing?  
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Mothers teach us how to be ...

Mothers teach us how to be ...

Thinking of the generations of mothers... past, present and future... on this mother's day ....

buttered toast and clothes warmed by the fire on a winter’s morning

the pain of adolescence felt

the posy of flowers at my bedside as I nurse a broken heart

long distance phone calls to share news of adventures

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The richness of life...and leaving the washing for another day!

The richness of life...and leaving the washing for another day!

As a working mother, there are frequently moments when I feel stretched.  Whilst I have the privilege of running my own business and within that dictating my own hours, life doesn’t always go to plan. 

The question I often sit with is…”how do I make all of this work and still feel whole?” And at the end of the day, I am struck by it all coming down to the quality of the moments throughout the busyness of life. 

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How to be with the uncomfortable parts of self...and my love of brownies!

How to be with the uncomfortable parts of self...and my love of brownies!

So I lost my nerve with my writing.  It has been months since I have pondered my experience of the world on the page. Something about ‘that is not how it is done’ became a bigger voice than I could battle.  So rather than battling, I let it have its rein for a while.  I sat with it, I wondered and I discovered a little wounded part of self, who believed she was never good enough.  We became friends, we played games, and rather than trying to convince each other who was right and who was wrong, we eventually chose to accept one another for all of the messiness and the incompleteness that we are.

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Reconnecting to Life with Wholebody Focusing

Reconnecting to Life with Wholebody Focusing

Wholebody Focusing can transform your life.  If you would like to learn more about how this practice can help you feel empowered, more satisfied in your relationships and more engaged in life, watch this short 2 minute video...

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Reconnecting to the grid … what do I need to sustain me?

Reconnecting to the grid … what do I need to sustain me?

Summer holidays are nearly over here in Australia.  The summer is a time when the children are off school for up to 2 months and many businesses slow down or even close their doors - the nation takes a vacation. 

At home, the TV stays on with that strange game called cricket playing in the background, puzzles and board games remain on the floor for days on end, fans whirring and midday naps common place, the days are long, slow and hot.

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The morning coffee ritual ...& life

The morning coffee ritual ...& life

This morning when ordering a take-away coffee, I ask the barista how he is doing?  With a big beaming smile, he shares that last night he proposed to his girlfriend.

Touched by the beauty of his delight, instantly my eyes fill with tears.  We laugh at my response and unperturbed he goes on to tell me the details of the proposal, as well as his desire to marry with all of his family present, including his elderly grandfather.

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