How do you make space for intimacy?

How do you make space for intimacy?

Our being needs to feel intimacy to repair and grow.  Derived from the Latin intimare ‘impress, make familiar’, from intimus ‘inmost’, intimacy implies a place where we are truly prepared to be with and make known our innermost experiences. 

How do you make space for intimacy in your relationships?

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As the Year Unfolds, How are You Coping with Overwhelm & Anxiety?

As the Year Unfolds, How are You Coping with Overwhelm & Anxiety?

With the new year very much underway, this can be a time that we can experience overwhelm and anxiety, as we feel the jolt of our daily life routine, against the relaxed mode of the summer holidays just past.  

This short post is designed to give you the basic elements of grounding, as a first step to coming into present moment awareness.

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How to be with the uncomfortable parts of self...and my love of brownies!

How to be with the uncomfortable parts of self...and my love of brownies!

So I lost my nerve with my writing.  It has been months since I have pondered my experience of the world on the page. Something about ‘that is not how it is done’ became a bigger voice than I could battle.  So rather than battling, I let it have its rein for a while.  I sat with it, I wondered and I discovered a little wounded part of self, who believed she was never good enough.  We became friends, we played games, and rather than trying to convince each other who was right and who was wrong, we eventually chose to accept one another for all of the messiness and the incompleteness that we are.

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Reconnecting to Life with Wholebody Focusing

Reconnecting to Life with Wholebody Focusing

Wholebody Focusing can transform your life.  If you would like to learn more about how this practice can help you feel empowered, more satisfied in your relationships and more engaged in life, watch this short 2 minute video...

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Growing through anxiety ....

Growing through anxiety ....

This morning I received a text ...“Mum, I have my first pimple, I am growing up!”.

Now let me put this in context, this text is from our youngest child, who is at that moment is upstairs, in her bedroom, and it is 7am!

I bound upstairs, and I am invited to inspect the blemish on her cheek – no it does not appear to be a mosquito bite, nor an allergy spot, yes I confirm it does appear to be a full blown pimple.  

With delight, our child proudly confides that this is truly evidence of her development.

I share in her excitement, as I look about her room filled with soft toys and pink…and I note for a moment, I am able to sit with both the joy and grief of motherhood... 

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Generation G(oogle) - children, anxiety and the web?

Generation G(oogle) - children, anxiety and the web?

I noticed on Facebook the other day a meme came up on my feed that read, “Please don’t confuse your Google search with my medical degree.” And it got me thinking about the power of Google in our lives and in particular the lives of our children, the access it affords them to the wondrous and unknown, that generations before us could only have dreamed about. There is much said in the media and taught in our children’s schools about the dangers of inappropriate, unsupervised access to the Internet. We are all too aware of social media trolls, cyber bullying and online predators but what of the seemingly harmless websites our children visit and the hidden impact they can have?

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Embracing the fear of Menopause...

Embracing the fear of Menopause...

"It is 2:30am, yet again I have awoken bolt upright dreaming of the worst for my children.  This cycle of interrupted sleep takes its toll.  I go over it in my head, perhaps I am trying to fit too much in, or maybe it’s that accident I saw on the road last week…or maybe there really is something terribly wrong??  It’s quiet in the house, I don’t want to bother anyone, so I lie here thinking, thinking, thinking…until by early morning and having consulted Dr Google... I am convinced that my symptoms tell me there is something very wrong with me. 

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The beginning of the school year…whose anxiety is it really?

The beginning of the school year…whose anxiety is it really?

It is the day before school starts and, I find myself up late sewing on the last of the name tags to the children’s school uniform.  As I struggle to thread the needle once again, I wonder to myself  “what am I really doing here?”…  There is something about the quality of the sewing, the need to sew a tag on every item of clothing, with such care and urgency, that makes me wonder.  As I tune into this wondering and sense into my body, I recall sitting alone on my bedroom floor as an adolescent, sewing name tags on to my own clothes before heading off to boarding school.  The excitement quickly drowned out by a sense of overwhelming dread.

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Nurturing courage in children

Nurturing courage in children

When my son was four years old, I would give him a $5 dollar note and send him to the little corner store about 10 houses up from our place. Pulling a rusty red wagon behind him, he’d head off up our road to buy a couple of cartons of milk, feeling like he was Buzz Lightyear on a very important mission.

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Stress & Anxiety – some simple steps to overcome this state of being…Part 1

Stress & Anxiety – some simple steps to overcome this state of being…Part 1

In my work, I meet a lot of people who described themselves as “stressed”, “not-coping”, “anxious”, and often in these states, fear that there is something that is terribly wrong with them for this to be happening in their world. 

In this short post, I will outline some simple lifestyle changes you can make that are likely to reduce your stress levels.

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