The morning coffee ritual ...& life

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This morning when ordering a take-away coffee, I ask the barista how he is doing?  With a big beaming smile, he shares that last night he proposed to his girlfriend.

Touched by the beauty of his delight, instantly my eyes fill with tears.  We laugh at my response and unperturbed he goes on to tell me the details of the proposal, as well as his desire to marry with all of his family present, including his elderly grandfather.

Over the last 6 months, I have come to know this gentle man, as he has made me coffee every other morning.  We know each other’s names and he knows how I like my latte.  What he doesn’t know, is that on this day, I have just learned that a close relative is dying, and I am feeling the power of immanent loss. 

At this realization, the tears no longer just fill my eyes, but spill over to my cheeks, and I allow myself to feel the mix of love and loss in their fullness.

I note the significance of this moment, like joining the dots…and begin to wonder about the celebrations of life, the birthdays, the coming of age ceremonies, the rituals of the seasons, the religious ceremonies, all the coming together and witnessing of one another as we travel through life, perhaps being simply markers, like marks on a wall, or the growth rings of tress, all being marks of time, marks of life, preparing us to witness and to have the wisdom to be with the greatest mark of all…the mark of death.

As the barista hands me my coffee, I enjoy the private moment of connection. Allowing my body to feel the beauty of the marks of life, I step out into the spring morning.

(Trained as a whole-body focussing oriented therapist, Sarah Sacks is an experienced counsellor, who specialises in working in supporting people through periods of transition, especially around issues of grief and loss.)

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Sarah Sacks

Sarah is a qualified and experienced counsellor, meditation teacher and group facilitator. Sarah's years of body based based practices, in meditation and yoga, have led Sarah to believe in the inherent wisdom of the body. In line with this belief, Sarah has trained and qualified as a Whole Body Focusing Orientated Therapist, Transpersonal Counsellor, Holistic Counsellor, Meditation Teacher and Group Psychotherapy Facilitation. Over the last 5 years Sarah has worked in the not-for-profit sector, the community health sector and privately, as a generalist counsellor and group facilitator. Sarah has experience working with children, families and adults around issues of; isolation, anxiety, depression, grief, loss, trauma, anger, separation, addiction and general mental health. Sarah's warm and intuitive counselling style, along with her extensive life experience, enables Sarah to gently support her clients towards their own path of change. Qualifications - Bachelor of Holistic Counselling, Diploma of Transpersonal Counselling, Bachelor of Business (International Marketing & Trade), Diploma of Arts (Japanese), ACA (level 2), qualifying member for CAPAV